Love that hooks you
Affection, attention and promises used to pull you in and keep you there. 23 tactics on this line, in the order the guide walks them.
Open this line in the guideEvery tactic on this line, with look-alikes on other lines.L 01Intermittent ReinforcementGiving out affection, praise or kindness rarely and at unpredictable times. The few good moments then hold a person tighter than steady…L 02Love BombingFlooding someone with intense affection, praise and attention very early. The pace outruns how well the two people actually know each other.L 03Manufactured IntimacyCreating deep closeness fast, through early confessions and painful sharing, before the two people have any shared history to support it.L 04Future FakingMaking vivid promises about a better future together that keep you invested in the present. The promised things never seem to arrive.L 05HooveringReaching out to draw someone back into a relationship after they have pulled away or ended it. This often comes with promises that things…L 06Push-PullA repeating cycle of warmth and distance that leaves the other person working to get back to the warm stretch.L 07Emotional FloodingPouring on emotion so fast and so hard that the other person cannot think, until speed and intensity get mistaken for closeness.L 08Trauma BondingA strong attachment that grows through cycles of hurt, then comfort from the same person. Fear and closeness become tangled together.L 09Relief BaitA burst of kindness placed right after hurtful treatment, so that relief replaces an honest look at what happened.L 10Confirmation Bias ExploitationSupplying enough good moments that your own habit of favoring the kinder reading does the work of discounting the harm.L 11Premature ExclusivityPushing someone to commit exclusively and seriously before they have had time to know you well enough to choose freely.L 12Manufactured DestinyPresenting a relationship as fated or cosmically arranged, so that doubting it, slowing it down or leaving it is treated as going against…L 13Exclusive MeaningClaiming that only this one person truly understands you. Gradually, everyone else in your life seems less worthy of your trust.L 14The Exception ScriptTelling you that you are uniquely different from everyone around you. Keeping that special status then depends on staying close to the…L 15Emotional ParasitismA steady one-way arrangement where one person’s feelings get the attention and care, and the other is drained with little given back.L 16The Rescue HookShowing a need that seems helpless, so you take over tasks or feelings unasked and your effort is treated as devotion.L 17Mirroring-on-DemandQuickly copying your interests, opinions and way of speaking so you feel unusually understood, whether or not the match is real.L 18BreadcrumbingSending just enough occasional attention to keep someone hopeful and available, while the contact never turns into real plans or commitment.L 19Ghosting-Orbiting CycleGoing silent in direct messages while still viewing, liking or reacting to someone’s posts. The other person is neither in contact nor…L 20Ghosting as ControlCutting off all contact with no explanation and then returning later, leaving the other person with questions they cannot settle.L 21Idealize-Devalue-Discard CycleA three-stage arc. Someone is first placed on a pedestal, then steadily criticized and put down, and finally dropped.L 22SplittingSeeing a person or group as all good or all bad, with no middle ground, and flipping that view suddenly after a minor event.L 23Identity HookingSaying that someone’s identity, skills or successes belong to you, so that standing apart from you means giving up the self they have built.